Disclosure: I received a complimentary copy of Every Reason to Leave by Vicki Rose from Moody Publishers. All thoughts are my own.
There may be seasons in your marriage where times are hard and you just want to give up. There’s a possibility you’re going through it right now. Maybe you feel you have fallen out of love with your spouse, perhaps there is infidelity or addiction. Whatever the reason, there may be that little voice in your head or heart that says you need to get out. Family members and friends may also be encouraging you to leave. Divorce is becoming increasingly common nowadays and I truly feel that we need to change that. Have you ever heard that interview with an elderly couple who was married for 65 years? The couple’s answer: “We were born in a time when if something was broken, we would fix it, not throw it away…”
You may have read one of my past blog posts about my own separation with my husband a couple years ago. If not, you can read it here. Next month we celebrate 7 years of marriage and 2 years ago, we didn’t think we would even make it past 5. Looking back I remember telling myself that the word divorce was not in my vocabulary. I told myself I was going to try as hard to fix my marriage or die trying. It wasn’t easy though and I wanted to give up daily. I would be on fire some days and then some days I would be texting my brother and mentors at the wee hours of the morning saying I was ready to throw in the towel. Our marriage was broken and beyond repair (or so I thought). By the grace of God, our marriage was restored and I’m happy to be here to write about it today. Is our marriage perfect? Definitely not, but we are continuing to heal from past hurts and are trying our best to make our marriage stronger.
Recently I read Every Reason to Leave [& Why We Chose to Stay Together] by Vicki Rose. Vicki pours out her heart and tells the story of her marriage with her husband Billy Rose, their struggles with drugs, infidelity, parenting, you name it, they probably went through with it. There was a time where Vicki and Billy were separated for 5 1/2 years. That length of time really blew my mind while reading this book. My husband and I were separated for 5 months and that felt like forever! Throughout the book Vicki explains how she came to know the Lord and through that, God was able to heal her heart and she was able to reconcile with her husband. They now have a loving, godly marriage (going on 38 years)! They now speak globally to mentor to couples who are struggling with their marriage. They are truly an inspiration.
Sometimes weathering the storm in your relationship with your spouse is the last thing you want to do. You may be looking for the exit when things don’t seem to be changing for the better. My story and Vicki Rose’s story is living proof that God can heal the most broken of marriages if you let Him. Your marriage does not have to fail! If this is something you have been going through or if you have a loved one that is, I definitely recommend this book. I truly wish Vicki had wrote this when I was going through these trials, but glad that it is now available for couples to read and be encouraged. Thank you to Moody Publishers for the opportunity to review this book!